Sunday, December 25, 2016

Christmas in Cambodia (or Happy Merry Christmas!)


An alarm set for a little before 6am. Bananas and my no-bake granola bars for breakfast. And so starts my untraditional Christmas Eve far from home. 

Even though normally volunteers do not work on Saturdays, Saturday is a school day like any other in Cambodia. So when they made the schedule for my school, I was assigned three classes for Saturday. My wonderful counterpart is working on switching some of them to other days, but it has not happened yet. Fingers crossed he can change it. Anyways, I went to my first two classes from 7-11am, and the classes went well. I thought the time would drag on since we were just doing introductions and a few games, but it was fun to watch the students come out of their shells as they became less nervous to speak. 
 
After class, I went home and ate some more of my granola bars. I also decided to test the connection for tomorrow’s video call to my family for Christmas. And it was like fate; everyone was home and they were making Christmas cookies. It was wonderful to talk to everyone and see their faces. And then it got better; my host family came home from the market and school and was able to talk to my family back home. It was hilarious to see my American family try to communicate, throwing in a few random sampeahs (the Khmer word for greeting someone with a small bow and hands pressed together). They will have to practice some Khmer words and how to greet people before they come and visit… 

One of my cousins modeling her Christmas dress
After lunch and some coloring with my host sister, I headed back to school for another class. As I was biking towards the school, I was kinda dreading it. My feet were starting to feel the four hours of standing from the morning, and I didn’t feel like introducing myself again. However, when I mentioned I would be teaching at the school for 22 more months, my students spontaneously cheered. It was just the little pick up I needed; it reminded me that I am doing this to make an impact, however small, on the lives of my students in whatever way I can. 

When I got home, I was sitting outside in front of the house, when the dad in my host family brought out a bike the family has from the previous volunteer who lived here. It is usually sitting on the back porch, and he had brought it out and dusted it off. I asked him if he was going to exercise, and when he said yes, I couldn’t help but say “New year, new you!!” as he rode away. While I am not sure if it translated, I thought it was a pretty funny joke.

Soon after, the mom in my host family drove away from the house on her moto, and I assumed she was going to the market. However, when she came back, she said she had Christmas presents for the family.

She had bought underwear for each of us, and yes even for me. As she handed them out, none of us could stop laughing at this very practical Christmas gift. I told her that it was exactly what my mom back home would get us. She responded by saying it was something we could use every day. My host sister kept saying, “Bong Carissa gave me a book, but Mak gave me these (holding them up) UNDERWEAR!!!”

The fact that I was included in the family underwear Christmas gift was a bit strange and wonderfully awesome at the same time. It made me feel like part of the family.
My host sister with the cards we made!

Then I decided I wanted to make one of mom’s instant creamy noodle packs as one of the dishes for dinner; it was a little taste of home that would be a nice way to celebrate Christmas. After intently watching how it was made, my host sisters tasted and rejected it almost immediately, sticking to rice instead, but the mom in my host family loved it. Members of my extended family showed up for dinner as well, so we had a full house that night.

So, that is how I ended up sharing a packet of creamy noodles from America with my Cambodian family on Christmas Eve. Siting and eating while the TV blared, little kids ran around and screamed, adults sat around the house in groups, talking and arguing… just like any other Christmas back home. 

Until next time, 
Carissa  
 
P.S. I put Happy Merry Christmas in the title, because that is how most Cambodians say Merry Christmas.
Thank goodness for technology

Friday, December 9, 2016

Photo Update

I also wanted to post some photos. So, here you go!


Independence Monument in Phnom Penh



Helping out with a soccer camp at a local high school

A look at part of our town market

Some of my students and the soccer shirt I received for helping at camp

Prey Veng Friendsgiving 2016

Chasing sunsets   
Until next time,
Carissa

A Meeting of Mind and Media


Over the last few weeks, my reading list, podcast selections, and current state of mind have dovetailed quite nicely. I read Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie’s Americanah last week and just finished up Greg Mortenson’s Stones to Schools. Podcasts on slowing down and the mindset around charitable giving were on deck for this week as well. Adichie’s novel reflected my worried thoughts about race, gender, and the current situation in the United States; it was honestly one of the best books I have read in a while. If you haven’t had a chance yet, I suggest you take the time to read it. Meanwhile, Mortenson’s book as well as those podcasts tapped into some of my feelings about being a volunteer in-country for almost five months now. And I know I have mentioned these feelings before, but they are still there so I felt compelled to write about them.

Stones to Schools is Mortenson’s second book; I never got around to reading his first, Three Cups of Tea, although I know I picked it up from a bookstore shelf a time or two. I know that he has come under scrutiny for misrepresenting his life and organization to the public, but without going into all that, I think it is still important to consider the principles he claims to have built his work on. They are still valid and worth thinking about. Both books focus on the idea that in order to do successful development work you need to first get to know the community you want to help. Getting to know them isn’t reading history books or the current demographics of the region or country; it is building relationships and “taking tea”, an act of sharing. The TED Radio Hour podcast on slowing down is built around a similar message; by quickly starting a development project but slowing down after an initial phase, organizations and communities have the time and perspective to rethink things or look at problems in new ways. Taking this time can lead to completely new ideas or methods which are a vast improvement on the old. 

So, it is with these things in mind that I took another look at my current state of mind. Lately, I have been worried about not doing enough to start projects or do something productive in my community; while this is a completely normal PC feeling and I know I shouldn’t worry about this, I still do sometimes. Being a month into school and still not feeling settled has worried me. However, as I thought more about it with these books and podcasts swirling around in my head, I made a conscious choice to stop worrying. Things will happen as they happen when they happen. It takes time to cultivate those relationships, to "take the tea", and to think about what to do next. While I knew these things, I don’t think they had really crystallized in my brain until this fortuitous meeting of media and mind. 

Anyways, if you want to listen or read any of the things I talked about above, I have provided links to them below.  
 
Books:
https://www.amazon.com/Americanah-Chimamanda-Ngozi-Adichie/dp/0307455920
https://www.amazon.com/Stones-into-Schools-Promoting-Afghanistan/dp/0143118234
 
Podcasts:
http://www.npr.org/programs/ted-radio-hour/490624293/slowing-down
http://www.npr.org/2013/05/06/181684003/giving-it-away
 

Until next time, 
Carissa